This weekend my boyfriend Bennett is auditioning to one of the greatest music schools in the world. Everyone keep him in your thoughts! This period in my life, not only have I had days that completely changed my career but I’ve learned from the experience of others with their career changing experiences. It can be extremely nervewrecking. Take an audition for example: you spent months preparing for music for a moment that will take at most fifteen minutes and the result will completely change your life. How can you not be nervous?
Or take me for instance: I spent the whole summer applying for jobs. It takes so much emotional build up to prepare for a job interview. You go in for thirty to forty minutes and then it’s over. The moments of most impact take the most time to prepare for and the least time to actually experience. Or so I’ve observed.
Understand that you’ve done all you can to prepare
I remember when I was auditioning to music schools, I would practice up until the night before. I felt like that only made my experience worse. The night before, put away your materials, put away your instrument or books or whatever you are using to prepare for your big day, and just realize you have done all you can do. You are not going to cram in more information in one night. You are not going to magically get “better” in a short amount of time. You have done all you can do. It’s time to put the work down. You have prepared yourself “physically”, now time to prepare yourself mentally.
Get a good nights rest
It is very important that you get a full, good nights rest before your big day. Take out the “do not disturb” sign, light some candles, get your essential oils and get yourself to relax and fall asleep. Sleep for a long time. Don’t sleep for three hours or five hours or whatnot, sleep for a solid 8/9 hours. Get fully rested so you wake up feeling refreshed and ready to go.
Meditate – Visualize the day going right
If you are not into the whole sitting in silence, with chakra rocks and saying “ohm”, there are many ways you can meditate to get the visualization you need. You can take a long walk alone. You can stand in the shower. You can lay in your bed. I mean the possibilities are endless. Just get yourself alone and in a quiet place to think. Visualize your day finding success. In Bennett’s case, I would visualize waking up, having the most ideal morning, dressing in the classiest shirt and tie, driving to the audition, warming up on his instrument, physically feeling himself hit the mallets on each bar with the correct time and precision the piece asks for (he plays marimba just so ya’ll know,) and lastly visualize your positive interaction with the professors and see the smile as they shake your hand after you have completed a successful audition.
Eat breakfast in the morning
Even if you are not a huge breakfast person in the morning, try to eat at least something. Fun fact, the potassium in bananas help calm nerves and prevent anxiety. Whether it’s a banana, a slice of toast or something, eat something before you head out for the day.
I don’t mean go out and get yourself sweaty, but get your heart pumping. Go out for a walk, turn on some music and dance around the house, do a little yoga or do like 30 jumping jacks. Just to get your body moving and get that blood flowing in your body.
Go in confident
Go in with a smile on your face. Walk in like you know what you’re doing: like you deserve to be there. Shake your potential boss’ hand. Talk highly of your accomplishments. Feel good about yourself. There is a reason you are qualified to be there. Embrace it. Own it. Feel confident in yourself, that you can and will find success at the place you are looking to expand your professionalism at.
Maybe it’s not meant to be…
I received a dozen rejections before I ended up at the job I have now. You just have to realize that it’s not you, it’s the situation. It was not meant to be. You were meant to find success somewhere that will be a better fit for you. You just have to pick yourself up and keep trying. So in Bennett’s case for example, he needs to walk out of his audition thinking “hey, I’ve done all I can do. If it doesn’t work out, it’s just not meant to be. It doesn’t speak ill of my abilities. It just means there is somewhere else out there that is a better fit for me.”
If you are like Bennett and have a major career changing day ahead of you, I wish you the best of luck! Think positively and be healthy and you will find success wherever life may take you.