I used to spend days and nights replaying your words in my head.
“You will never be able to do that.”
“You should do this because you’re never going to be able to do that.”
“You’re gonna fail.”
“You’re gonna get kicked out.”
“You’re not going to make it.”
“You can’t do it.”
I’d replay them over and over again, and eventually, I believed them to be true. The amount of times I had to convince myself that your words are not me. You don’t know me. The person that knows me better than anyone else is myself. But it took years. Many years. In fact, most of my life.
When someone uses negative, demotivating words towards another, it’s for either two reasons.
- Your demoting words are a form of care. You’re hoping your words will trigger motivation in me to prove your words wrong.
2. Your demoting words are a way of dismissing your own insecurities. To make you feel better about your own struggles, you try to take down my successes.
Whatever your motives were, I want to say thank you. If you’re person number one, thank you for your care and your desire to see me succeed by proving your words wrong. If you’re person number two, thank you for thinking my my successes are worth taking down.
Now here comes the lesson learned. If you’re person number one, I don’t need your negative words to motivate me. In fact, I don’t need you to motivate me at all. I found success through my own motivation to accomplish my goals. I don’t need your help, and negative energies don’t produce success. Positive energies produce positive outcomes. If you’re person number two, when you take down my successes, you may feel a sense of power in the moment and it takes away the defeat of your own struggles. But that power is not permanent, in fact its only in the moment and it all fades away. You will be hungry for more. You’re really going to feed off of tearing down others over and over again? If that’s the case, you will run out of people in your life.
If you must know, I did it. I did everything you told me I wouldn’t be able to do. I’ve found success. I’ve proven you wrong and here I am, stronger than ever.